We live in a constantly changing world. The pace of change is more rapid than it has ever been. New products and processes are continually available and the rate at which we are exposed to new information is continually increasing. This can be overwhelming at times. Sometimes we are able to shelter our children from so much change, but often not. If it is overwhelming to us, how does it feel to our children? And that is just “normal” everyday change. What about the big unexpected changes?
Less than one week ago, we elected a new president which resulted in many of us contemplating the changes ahead. Whether it is the start of a new presidency, a new school year or simply a new day, the mere thought of some sort of change, especially a major one, can bring on a flood of emotions: fear, apprehension and anxiety? How about changing those into excitement, eagerness and enthusiasm?
According to a growing body of research, children best learn how to cope with change and the ups & downs of life by developing resilience. Along with compassion, resilience is one of the most important qualities parents can teach their children.
And how do children learn resilience? Apparently by watching us adults. Children copy the coping, stress-management and thinking styles of the adults around them. They can sense if adults are anxious or worried and will tend to mimic that.
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” ~Socrates
There are some major benefits to change. Think about how much you grow and learn every time something changes. You discover new insights about different aspects of your life. You learn lessons even from changes that did not lead you to where you wanted to be.
Without change, there would be no improvements. Changes trigger progress. Things move forward and develop because of them. One never knows what each change may bring. When you turn from your usual path there will be plenty of different opportunities waiting for you. Changes can bring new choices for happiness and fulfillment.
Remember the movie Groundhog Day? The main character is forced to live the same day over and over. He leads a completely dull, extremely predictable, and uninteresting life. That is how your life would be without changes.
So think of each change as turning a page. It is about closing one chapter and opening another one. Changes can bring new beginnings and excitement to your life.
Sometimes, change is exactly what we need…
And remember—if there were no change, there would be no butterflies!